The Menu
A desire checklist for couples. Every kink, fetish, and fantasy, from vanilla to the far edge, each with its own level.
Go through the list together and each mark every line yes, maybe, or no. What you both said yes to is your list to try; where you disagree is what to talk about.
A green isn't a promise. You move at the pace of the slower partner, any answer can change later, and your answers are saved under a private link so you can come back to them.
Every line carries one of these. Switch off what you are past, or what you are not ready for.
- Vanilla More of what you already do. For couples who haven't said much yet.
- Spicy The next room: toys, roles, being seen a little. For couples who've done the basics.
- Filthy Power, rough, anal, public, camera, where he comes. For couples who already talk dirty.
- Taboo Someone else enters the picture, or the rules get real. For couples who have said "someone else" out loud at least once.
- Depraved More than one man, cuckold, the far edge. For couples who already know, and want to see where the other one stands.
Green-on-red rows (one of you yes, the other no) are marked as you go; that's your talk list, not a verdict. Come back later, and yellows move.
Keep this
Saved under a private link. Open it on any phone and the list is there, both columns.
Safari on iPhone forgets this page after a week away. Add your email and the list can't be lost.
Get it back anywhere. Your email is the key, no password.
One link, nothing else. Your answers stay with this email until you ask us to delete them.
You've said it out loud. The stories are where you try it safely. Start with the one that fits what you both circled.
Ready to stop mapping and start negotiating? The Boundaries Talk takes one scenario all the way down, her line and his on every question.
What the Menu is
A yes / no / maybe list for couples. 183 things two people might want in bed, each with its own level from vanilla to depraved, and every one of them gets two answers: hers and his, side by side. Most kink checklists are filled in alone and compared later. This one is built to be filled in together, on one screen or on two phones, so the comparing happens while you're both looking at it.
How it works
Pick a line, tap yes, maybe, or no. Your partner does the same on the same row. The list is sorted by what kind of thing it is, and inside each part the lines run from tame to wild, with a coloured dot showing the level. The chips at the top switch each level on or off; everything is on to start. About 24 minutes for the whole list if you say one word to each other per line, and you don't have to finish in one sitting. Answers save as you tap, under a private link, so you can pick it up on any phone.
Two phones: one of you opens the two-phone panel and shows the link or the QR code, the other opens it. Each of you fills your own column and watches the other's circles land as they tap. Same bed or different cities, it works the same.
At the end you get the list of everything you both said yes to, a summary of where you match and where you split, and a story picked from what you circled. The rows where one of you said yes and the other said no are your talk list, not a verdict.
What's on the list
- Warming up 10, vanilla to spicy
- Talk 8, vanilla to filthy
- Toys 10, spicy to filthy
- Roles 9, spicy to filthy
- Dressed for it 6, spicy to taboo
- Power 11, spicy to taboo
- Rough 12, spicy to taboo
- Behind 10, spicy to taboo
- Out of the house 10, spicy to taboo
- On camera 7, spicy to depraved
- Particular tastes 10, spicy to taboo
- Finishing 8, spicy to taboo
- Watching 9, vanilla to taboo
- Another person 17, filthy to depraved
- Other couples 5, filthy to depraved
- Kept 10, filthy to depraved
- More than one man 9, depraved to depraved
- Cuckold 9, taboo to depraved
- The far edge 13, taboo to depraved
- Always shown Her fears, his fears, and the three lines you say out loud at the end
Questions
Is it free?
Yes. No signup. Your answers get a private link; add an email only if you want them back on another phone. The stories are free as well.
Where do our answers go?
They're saved under a private link the moment you tap, so you can close the tab, switch phones, or come back next month. Only the two of you have the link. We never sell or share what you circle, and we delete it when you ask. We also count anonymous totals of what couples want most, nothing tied to you.
Is this a yes / no / maybe list?
Yes. That's what sex educators call this kind of checklist, and an interactive sex questionnaire for couples is the other name for it. The difference is that the Menu is made for two people answering at the same time, and it goes all the way down.
Can we change an answer?
Any time. Yellows are meant to move. Start over wipes both columns, on every phone with the link.
What do we do with the result?
Say it out loud first. Then the stories: each one is a rehearsal for something on the list, played together, one choice at a time. If one scenario is getting serious, The Boundaries Talk takes it all the way down, rule by rule.