The Menu
A yes / no / maybe list for couples: every kink, fetish and fantasy, from vanilla to the far edge.
Each of you answers one question per line: does it turn you on? Super hot, I like it, if you want, or no. Tap a green a second time and a flame lands on it: open to try it for real. Where you both say yes is your list. Where you split is what to talk about.
The kinks and levels are set by the phone that sent the link.
Every line carries one of these. Switch off what you are past, or what you are not ready for.
- Vanilla More of what you already do. For couples who haven't said much yet.
- Spicy The next room: toys, roles, being seen a little. For couples who've done the basics.
- Filthy Power, rough, anal, public, camera, where he comes. For couples who already talk dirty.
- Taboo Someone else enters the picture, or the rules get real. For couples who have said "someone else" out loud at least once.
- Depraved More than one man, cuckold, the far edge. For couples who already know, and want to see where the other one stands.
Keep this
Saved under a private link. Open it on any phone and the list is there, both columns.
Safari on iPhone forgets this page after a week away. Add your email and the list can't be lost.
Get it back anywhere. Your email is the key, no password.
One link, nothing else. Your answers stay with this email until you ask us to delete them.
You've said it out loud. The stories are where you try it safely. Start with the one that fits what you both circled.
Ready to stop mapping and start negotiating? The Boundaries Talk takes one scenario all the way down, her line and his on every question.
What the Menu is
A yes / no / maybe list for couples. 202 things two people might want in bed, sorted into twelve kinks, each line with its own level from vanilla to depraved, and every one of them gets two answers: his and hers, side by side. Most kink checklists are filled in alone and compared later. This one works all three ways: together on one screen, on two phones, or alone first and compared the moment you have both finished.
How it works
Pick a line and answer one question: does it turn you on? Super hot, I like it, if you want (not yours, but you'd do it for them), or no. Tap Super hot or I like it a second time and a flame lands on it: open to try it for real. Your partner does the same on the same row. The list is sorted into twelve kinks, each with its own tile at the top, and inside each kink the lines run from tame to wild, with a coloured dot showing the level. Tap a tile to switch that kink off, so a couple with no interest in other people never scrolls past them; the level chips switch each level on or off. Everything is on to start. Say one word to each other per line and the whole list takes about half an hour, and you don't have to finish in one sitting. Answers save as you tap, under a private link, so you can pick it up on any phone.
Two phones: one of you picks "Two phones" and shows the link or the QR code, the other opens it. Each of you fills your own column and watches the other's circles land as they tap. Same bed or different cities, it works the same.
Or take it alone: switch to "Just me", fill your column, finish, and you get your card and a link for your partner. What they answer stays sealed until they finish too, then the match opens on both phones. The kinks and levels you leave on are the set they get.
At the end you get your matches: the lines with a flame on both sides, first; then the ones hot for both of you, hottest at the top; then the ones where one of you wants it and the other would do it for them; then the rows where one of you said yes and the other no, which are your talk list, not a verdict. A story is picked from what you matched. Once you have done something, tick it and it moves out of the way.
What's on the list
- Foreplay & dirty talk 14, vanilla to spicy
- Toys 8, spicy to filthy
- Roleplay 8, spicy to filthy
- BDSM 39, spicy to taboo
- Anal 9, spicy to taboo
- Cum, feet & mess 21, spicy to depraved
- Exhibitionism & voyeurism 22, vanilla to depraved
- Threesomes 11, taboo to depraved: a third joins you both, her with a woman, him with a man
- Hotwife & cuckquean 26, filthy to depraved: one of you with someone else, the other watching or hearing about it, cheating included
- Cuckold & cuckquean 14, depraved: he is denied, she is given away, and the other way round
- Swinging & groups 15, filthy to depraved: other couples, parties, more than one man
- Edge play 9, taboo to depraved
- Always shown His fears and her fears, at the end
Questions
Is it free?
Yes. No signup. Your answers get a private link; add an email only if you want them back on another phone. The stories are free as well.
Where do our answers go?
They're saved under a private link the moment you tap, so you can close the tab, switch phones, or come back next month. Only the two of you have the link. We never sell or share what you circle, and we delete it when you ask. We also count anonymous totals of what couples want most, nothing tied to you.
Is this a yes / no / maybe list?
Yes. That's what sex educators call this kind of checklist, and an interactive sex questionnaire for couples is the other name for it. The difference is that the Menu is made for two people answering at the same time, its "yes" is split in two (super hot, or I like it) and its "maybe" means only if you want it, and it goes all the way down.
What do the four answers mean?
The question on every line is: does it turn you on? Super hot and I like it are two sizes of yes. If you want is not your thing, but you'd do it for your partner. No is no. Whether you would actually do it is a separate question, so it is a separate tap: press Super hot or I like it a second time and a flame lands on it, open to try. Green without a flame is a fantasy you're happy to keep as one; when a line has a flame on both sides, it goes to the top of your list.
Can we change an answer?
Any time. Maybes are meant to move. Start over wipes both columns, on every phone with the link.
What do we do with the result?
Say it out loud first. Then the stories: each one is a rehearsal for something on the list, played together, one choice at a time. If one scenario is getting serious, The Boundaries Talk takes it all the way down, rule by rule.