the menu, written out

List of kinks for couples

183 lines, vanilla to depraved, in the order the Menu asks them.

This is every line on The Menu, our yes / no / maybe list for couples, as plain text. Read it alone first if you want to know what is coming. Then open the Menu and go through it together: each of you marks every line yes, maybe or no, and both answers sit side by side on the same row, on one screen or on two phones in sync.

The list is sorted by what kind of thing it is; inside each part the lines run from tame to wild, and every line carries its level as a coloured dot. On the Menu itself, chips at the top switch each level on or off.

The five levels

Every line below carries one.

Vanilla More of what you already do. For couples who haven't said much yet.
Spicy The next room: toys, roles, being seen a little. For couples who've done the basics.
Filthy Power, rough, anal, public, camera, where he comes. For couples who already talk dirty.
Taboo Someone else enters the picture, or the rules get real. For couples who have said "someone else" out loud at least once.
Depraved More than one man, cuckold, the far edge. For couples who already know, and want to see where the other one stands.

Warming up

Everything you already do, more of it and slower. · 10 lines · vanilla to spicy

Longer teasing and foreplay, every time
A slow full-body massage that ends in sex
More oral, both ways
Woken up with sex already started: his mouth on her, or her hand on him
Sexting through a completely normal work day
Undress for each other, slowly, all the way
Kiss the neck, the ears, take your time before anything else
Eat something off each other's body
More spontaneous sex, out of nowhere, wherever you are
Eyes on each other the whole time you fuck, no looking away

Talk

Saying it. The first door to everything below. · 8 lines · vanilla to filthy

Talk dirty to each other in bed
Say out loud what you actually want tonight
Read a dirty story to each other, out loud
Tell each other a fantasy you have never said
Phone sex, from different rooms or different cities
Say who else you would fuck, in bed, while you fuck
He tells her what he would want to watch her do with someone else
She tells him what she would let a stranger do to her

Toys

Things in the drawer, and who holds them. · 10 lines · spicy to filthy

A vibrator on her clit while he fucks her
A dildo in her, him working it
A cock ring on him
Clamps on her nipples
Each of you masturbates while the other watches
He gets her off with his hand only, nothing else
She gets him off with her hand only, nothing else
Her blindfolded, not knowing what he does next
A remote vibrator inside her, and he holds the remote
A prostate toy in him, and she controls it

Roles

Being someone else for a night. · 9 lines · spicy to filthy

Dress up: a costume, a uniform, and stay in character
Meet as two strangers who have never met, and pick each other up
Fake names for the whole night, in front of other people
Teacher and student
Play it like you are cheating on someone
She gets picked up in a bar by her own husband, playing a stranger
A full roleplay scene with a script and rules, start to finish
Escort and client: cash on the table, and she does what he paid for
Daddy and his girl, or the older woman and the boy, played up

Dressed for it

What she wears out, and who decides. · 6 lines · spicy to taboo

She goes out in something see-through, no bra, for him
She wears no underwear all evening, and he knows
He picks what she wears out, down to what is under it
He wears what she tells him, with nothing underneath
A skirt short enough that strangers look, and she lets them
She dresses like a slut on purpose, on his arm, in public

Power

Who is in charge, and for how long. · 11 lines · spicy to taboo

He gives every order for the night and she obeys
She gives every order for the night and he obeys
She is told exactly what to do, position by position
She has to ask permission before she comes
His orgasm allowed, or denied, on her word
Her edged for an hour, and he decides whether she comes at all
He kisses and licks one part of her, whatever she names, for as long as she wants
She kisses and licks one part of him, whatever he names, for as long as he wants
Her tied to the bed and fucked while she cannot move
Him tied to the bed and ridden while he cannot move
He licks his own cum off her

Rough

Harder. Him on her first, then the other way round. · 12 lines · spicy to taboo

He fucks her rougher and harder than usual
Her hair pulled while he fucks her from behind
He bites her hard enough to leave a mark
Her spanked by hand until she is red
His hand around her throat while he fucks her
Called a slut while he fucks her
Turned around: she spanks him
Her spanked with a paddle, a crop or a cane
A slap across her face, mid-fuck
Face fucked, his hand on the back of her head, until she gags
He holds her down and fucks her without asking
Turned around: she slaps him and calls him what he is

Behind

Whose ass, and how far. · 10 lines · spicy to taboo

A finger in her ass while he fucks her
A finger in his ass while she sucks him
He rims her
She rims him
A plug in her ass through dinner
Anal sex: him in her ass
A plug in his ass, worn out of the house
A toy in her ass while he fucks her pussy
From her ass straight into her mouth
Pegging: her fucking his ass with a strap-on

Out of the house

Where you might be seen. · 10 lines · spicy to taboo

His hand up her skirt under a restaurant table
Sex in the car, parked somewhere
Sex outdoors, in the dark
A remote vibrator in her at dinner, and he decides when it goes on
Fucked against a window someone could see through
Fucked at a hotel window with the curtains open
Sex somewhere you could actually get caught
Sex in a restroom, a changing room, a stairwell
Naked together at a nudist beach or resort
She flashes a stranger her tits, a second, then gone

On camera

What the lens keeps, and who ever sees it. · 7 lines · spicy to depraved

Nude photos of each other, kept between you
Film yourselves fucking, kept between you
Fuck for a camera on a tripod and watch it back together
Shoot a whole scene, start to finish, like porn
Her nudes shown to another man, with her yes
Post your video, anonymous, faces hidden, and read the comments together
A live cam show: the two of you fucking for strangers online

Particular tastes

Feet, mess, temperature, spit, and what her face is for. · 10 lines · spicy to taboo

He kisses, licks and worships her feet
She kisses, licks and worships his feet
Sex covered in oil or food, slick and messy
He fucks her tits until he comes
Her feet on his cock until he comes
Hot wax and ice on her skin, or on his
He spits in her mouth and on her face
He makes her squirt
He keeps going until she has come more times than she can take
Her makeup wrecked, spit and tears on her face, and she wants it

Finishing

Where he comes, and what happens after. · 8 lines · spicy to taboo

He comes in her mouth and she swallows
He comes on her tits or her back and leaves it there
She comes on his face
He comes, and she keeps sucking him
He comes on her face
She licks her own wetness off his cock
A ruined orgasm: he is stopped right at the edge, on purpose
He comes inside her and she goes out with it still in her

Watching

Looking, being looked at, nobody else touching. · 9 lines · vanilla to taboo

Watch porn together and point at what you like
Fuck in front of a mirror
A strip club together, and she gets the lap dance while he watches
A swingers club, first time, just to look, nobody touches you
Watch another couple fuck, in the same room
A sex party as guests: watch everything, touch nobody
Someone watches the two of you fuck
Another couple watches the two of you fuck, in your own bed
A play party: the two of you fuck in the open, nobody else joins

Another person

A third body. Her side first, then the threesomes, then his. · 17 lines · filthy to depraved

She flirts with a man at the bar while he watches
She dances with a stranger while he watches from the bar
She kisses another man, and only that
A stranger's hands on her tits and her ass, nothing more
She sucks another man while he watches
She goes down on another woman, and the other way round
He watches her fuck another woman
She chooses the woman
A threesome with another woman, all three in the bed
The third is someone you both already know
The third is a total stranger, once, never again
Another man fucks her while he watches
He chooses the man who fucks her
A threesome with another man, both of them on her
He fucks another woman while she watches
He sucks another man's cock while she watches
A regular: the same third, more than once

Other couples

Both of you in play, with another two. · 5 lines · filthy to depraved

Two couples fuck in the same room, nobody touches across
Soft swap: mouths and hands with the other couple, no fucking
Full swap, same room: he fucks the other woman while the other man fucks her
Full swap in separate rooms, and you tell each other after
A group of four or more, everyone fucking everyone

Kept

Rules that last past tonight. · 10 lines · filthy to depraved

He picks what she wears, every day, no discussion
A gag in her mouth while he uses her
She serves him all evening as told: drinks, kneeling, whatever he says
He serves her all evening as told
Her collared and led on a leash
Him collared and led on a leash
She is not allowed to come for a week, and he decides when
Him locked in a chastity cage, waiting for her word
Hooded and earplugged: she cannot see or hear what he does next
A 24/7 dynamic: she asks his permission for things every day, not just in bed

More than one man

Her, and several of them. · 9 lines · depraved to depraved

Two men on her at once
Two men in her at once, both holes
Both men of another couple on her, the other woman watching
Three men or more take turns fucking her
A group of men come on her face, one after another
Blindfolded, fucked, and never told by whom
A sex party where she is passed from man to man, and he watches
A glory hole: she sucks strangers she never sees
More men in one night than she can count

Cuckold

His side of her with another man. · 9 lines · taboo to depraved

He watches another man fuck her and is not allowed to touch
She tells him every detail after, in bed, while he fucks her
She fucks another man while he is not there, and tells him after
He licks her clean after the other man comes in her
Another man comes inside her
Him locked in chastity while she is with another man
She sleeps over at another man's place
He hands her to another man for the night, on his terms
A hired professional fucks her, or him, no strings, gone by morning

The far edge

Pain, marks, the things with no gentle version. · 13 lines · taboo to depraved

Bruises and marks that still show on Monday
Choked until she nearly passes out, then brought back
She has to call herself a slut out loud, in front of other people
Used as furniture: she kneels, holds still and is ignored for an hour
Non-consent roleplay: she says no, he doesn't stop, and both of you agreed to it beforehand
Tied and suspended off the ground, then fucked
Pain for its own sake: clamps, canes, whips
His whole fist inside her
Her whole fist inside him
He pisses on her, or in her mouth
His cum passed back to him in a kiss, or fed to him
A permanent mark of ownership: a brand, a tattoo, a collar she never takes off
A knife or a gun in the scene, held to her

And the fears

Only she answers hers; only he answers his. Not nos, the things worth saying before anything.

Her fears

That he would see me differently after
That I would like it too much
That he is only asking because he is bored of me
That it cannot be taken back
That I could not stop once it started
That he would not be able to stop it going further than we agreed

His fears

That she would want someone else more
That I could not handle watching
That she is only saying yes for me
That it changes us for good
That I would want it again and again
That I would push her into something she does not want, without meaning to

Fill it in together →free · no account · answers stay on your phones

If one line on this list is getting serious, The Boundaries Talk takes it all the way down, rule by rule. The stories are where you try it.