FMF: her, him, and another woman. Green / yellow / red.
The FMF talk: her, him, and another woman, and it rarely plays out the way either of you expects. Work through finding her, what she does with each of you, all three together, the rules, and the fears. Each of you marks every line green, yellow, or red, side by side. Green-on-green is what you both want; the rest is what to talk about.
Every question gets both answers: her circle and his, side by side, nothing hidden. Fill it together on one screen, where the talking is the point, or link two phones and watch each other's answers land live. A green isn't a promise, and you move at the pace of the slower partner, always. Yellows move, so come back and change them. Your answers stay on your phone.
Green-on-red rows (one of you yes, the other no) are marked as you go; that's your talk list, not a verdict. Come back later, and yellows move.
You've said it out loud. The stories are where you try what you circled.